Written by: Katherine
J. Cole rapped, “Now girl you are fine, ain’t no doubt about it. But why else you think he hit it and forgot about it? It’s cause your mind don’t match what your a** got.” –
Therefore, Don’t be the girl who only has her looks to rely on. You are more than that. Use your brain. Educate yourself. Read the news, read articles, watch documentaries. Be more than what people may perceive you to be. You can always enhance yourself.
“Be a girl with a mind, a women with attitude, and a lady with class.”
Being a classy broad is what I strive for. This starts by integrity. Treat people with respect even if you don’t emotionally care for them. Use your manners by saying please and thank you more than enough, make eye contact, have phenomenal posture. Smile at others more and be pleasant.
“The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence” – Beyoncé
Start believing in yourself and what God gave you. Keep your head held high and shoulders back and know you are fabulous. You have to start believing in your ideas and thoughts and act on them. Don’t be a follower. You don’t have to agree with all your friends. Be your own you. Be confident enough not to care what other people are going to say when they turn their back on you. Therefore, Confidence is not ‘they will like me’, Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.
“Strong women wear their pain like they do stilettos. No matter how much it hurts, all you see is the beauty of it.”
I don’t like making my problems everyone else’s problems. When a guy screws you over, when your boyfriend cheats on you, when things don’t go your way, "you handle it" like Olivia Pope would say. You don’t quit. You don’t ask for pity. You don’t text him a million times asking for attention. Be stronger than that. A strong woman automatically stops when she feels unwanted. She doesn’t beg, she walks away…
“I’d rather you tell me to hit you later
Because you gotta finish a paper.
Then to be in my face asking for a Rose cup.
See these b***hes can’t cut in yo business.
I’m in love with your business
And your productivity is the reason I interest, ambitious girl
See, I like the person that you are
But I’m in love with the person that you have potential to be
And all your dreams sharing with me
And your secrets baring with me
And the flaws, you ain’t even got to mention to me
Ambitious girl, you just wanna win
And you’d rather chase your dreams
Then to try to chase these men
That try to chase these skirts
That try to chase these shots with flavors that ain’t even as sweet as her”
-Ambitious Girl by Wale
“If you want to be successful in this world, you have to follow your passion, not a paycheck.” – Jen Welter (NFL’s First Female Coach)
I believe you can find inspiration in almost any surrounding. I believe you have to pay attention to all the little cues in your life as they are a guide to lead you to where you're suppose to end up. Have more self-awareness by acknowledging the things you enjoy or intrigue you by the beauty. I have several ideas I write down in my notes app on my iPhone. My objective of this is to eventually act on those ideas. It's a more definite way to lock an idea in the back of your head. It's something I can relate back to.