I've been battling with myself and body for months. I kept telling myself, ahh start tomorrow. Yada yada yada. Nothing worked. I realized we have one life to live and I want to feel sexy and happy during it. The last three weeks, I've been Gluten Free/Dairy Free and I've lost 9 pounds. When losing weight remember, 80% of it is your diet and 20% of it is your work out.
Eat more salad
I eat a salad almost everyday. They are packed with vitamins and antioxidants that taste delicious. Spinach is my go-to because the taste of arugula is too bitter for me. I cook half of a chicken breast on the skillet using coconut oil, instead of butter. I try to load up my salads with vegetables or fruit, so I don't use dressing. If you absolutely need dressing, homemade salad dressings are a must. Grocery stores and restaurants load up their dressings with sugar, high fructose corn syrup or soy lecithin.
Break out the Guac, But Hold the Salted Chips
Avocado is a super popular fruit, loaded with potassium and helps combat bloating! Avocados are also high in soluble fiber and healthy fats, which makes you feel much fuller when eating small portions. I throw half an avocado in my breakfast in the morning and the other half in my salad for lunch. They are tummy-friendly, making your stomach flatter.
Stock up on these Fruits
Tomatoes help you fit into the jeans you've been wishing to wear. They flatten your stomach and are packed with antioxidant lycopene, which is known to have effective anti-inflammatory and de-bloating effects. I sauté my tomatoes for almost every meal I eat during the day. Grapefruit is another one - it is a subtropical citrus fruit and a great source of vitamin C, fiber, potassium, antioxidants and other nutrients. Studies show people who eat half a fresh grapefruit every day lose more weight than people who do not. Have it in the morning - add salt instead of sugar. It kick-starts your metabolism.
Lose the Booze
I stopped drinking alcohol often, but when I do my new obsession is tequila over ice with fresh lime. This helps avoid unnecessary sugars that leave you feeling hungover. 100% agave tequila has less congeners than most cocktails, which are substances that can contribute to hangovers. Alcohol is packed with dreaded "empty calories."
Always try to avoid sugar, especially refined sugar. It is addictive, so when you cave once - your body is going to scream for more. Reading more closely to labels made me realize how much sugar I was consuming. Sugar leads to mood swings and acne. I've also noticed when I eat sugar, more cellulite appears.
Recently, I came across an article written by Jessica Semaan, a psychology writer and Stanford business grad whose pieces have gained attention recently because she tends to writes about topics that people are scared to talk about.
5 Surprising Buddhist Lessons to Absorb
1. The Surprising Effect of Asking Why
When you are attracted to someone, and before taking it to the next level, ask yourself why. More often than not, when you are attracted to someone, you are actually attracted to a quality they posses. You wish you had that quality in yourself. So instead of clinging to the idea of being with that person, you should cultivate that quality in yourself.
2. The Importance of Slowing Down
You should be more mindful of every encounter and conversation you have with the person you're currently enjoying. The foundation of true love starts from getting to know someone on a deeper level, by understanding and accepting the person for who they are organically. This shows you care, which ultimately shows you respect them.
3. Manage your Anger, Not the Relationship
One feeling we naturally have as humans is anger. Before lashing out, and I am guilty of this - or maybe even hiding your feelings, you need to excuse yourself. Take a bath, go on a walk, work out. Ask yourself for time off. Really evaluate the situation. Think about it in like three different angles.
4. Stop Thinking you Need to be in a Relationship to Love
You've probably read it a million times, but you truly need self-love. Instead of forcing yourself to find the next guy, make your relationships with your parents, friends, classmates or coworkers stronger, more genuine.
According to Buddhist nuns, there is zero difference between this kind of love and what we refer to as long, lasting romantic love. When you start loving yourself, you become more authentic, better version of yourself. You are then a better partner to be.
5. Stop Feeding into your Craving for Romance
We are constantly consumed by love songs, Facebook marriages, or relationship goals like Blake Lively & Ryan Reynolds. These main sources feed the craving for the type of expectations we have for relationships. You lose yourself when you keep forcing the idea of you needing a relationship. This in turn leaves us heartbroken. We underestimate the power of what we passively consume and how it effects our desires.
- went and spoke to a psychiatrist about life - my childhood, love life, family
- lost friends. removed toxic people out for my own mental well being
- i said no to men i was not fully into
- i cried. cried a lot. allowed myself to release the sad energy that was so built up inside
- i left my environment and moved. and thank goodness i did.
- started cooking with coconut oil
- i focused on making my close friendships stronger. more genuine.
- jump started my career. hack until you get the job of your dreams.
- consistently deleted my instagram and snapchat so i could maintain some sort of self confidence without getting so consumed by the world. the media. the perfect, ideal image of a girl.
- i gave up cheer, the only commitment i'd had for 15 years to focus on myself
- started cherishing the people who had been around for years when i would take them for granted. i was so blinded.
- not to make decisions/give answers on the spot. wait a day. take a bath. think about it.
- to follow-up with people. you're nothing if you don't.
Recently, seniors are secretly freaking out inside. Me personally, I'm in my last semester of classes and required to complete a Spring Internship in order to receive my degree. This week was filled with career fairs at Indiana University. I was extremely nervous to compete against all my colleagues. I kept asking myself how can I stand out? What can I do to showcase my best self, while showing respect to all companies?
These 4 videos are extremely helpful stepping into the interview process:
Your Body Language
The Skill of Self Confidence
How to Speak
Say Goodbye to Career Planning
My mother recently introduced me to this amazing guide called How To Be A Lady by Candace Simpson-Giles. Her book is extremely enlightening. She highlights the proper mannerisms a woman should have in any given situation. I strongly recommend this contemporary guide for young girls. It will teach you valuable etiquette, while also transforming you into a classier young lady. You can purchase this book here.
During a Monday night lecture as an undergrad at Indiana University, I was in Ballantine Hall exploring the web as I'm guilty of usually doing. I came across this insightful presentation given by Dr. Amy Lee, who is the founder and director of the Integrative Wellness Center in Los Angeles, CA. Right then, I knew I could trust this article since most of Southern California is in tune with the health and fitness scene.
Dr. Amy Lee stressed the importance of avoiding High-Fructose Corn Syrup. My initial thought is what even is high-fructose corn syrup? High-fructose corn syrup is a manmade sweetener that is found in a wide range of processed foods, from ketchup and cereals to crackers and salad dressings. High-Fructose Corn Syrup is twenty times sweeter than sugar. Fairly disturbing and that's not all - this man-made carb is completely banned in Canada, China, and The European Union, yet somehow still very legal in the U.S.
I now start reading the ingredients on the nutrition labels of all condiments, snacks, sauces and any other processed foods. By eliminating this one, addictive carb can make drastic changes for your diet and body. I really focus on eating fresh, organic fruits and vegetables, and healthy proteins. I hope you take this secret and run with it.
Written by: Katherine
J. Cole rapped, “Now girl you are fine, ain’t no doubt about it. But why else you think he hit it and forgot about it? It’s cause your mind don’t match what your a** got.” –
Therefore, Don’t be the girl who only has her looks to rely on. You are more than that. Use your brain. Educate yourself. Read the news, read articles, watch documentaries. Be more than what people may perceive you to be. You can always enhance yourself.
“Be a girl with a mind, a women with attitude, and a lady with class.”
Being a classy broad is what I strive for. This starts by integrity. Treat people with respect even if you don’t emotionally care for them. Use your manners by saying please and thank you more than enough, make eye contact, have phenomenal posture. Smile at others more and be pleasant.
“The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence” – Beyoncé
Start believing in yourself and what God gave you. Keep your head held high and shoulders back and know you are fabulous. You have to start believing in your ideas and thoughts and act on them. Don’t be a follower. You don’t have to agree with all your friends. Be your own you. Be confident enough not to care what other people are going to say when they turn their back on you. Therefore, Confidence is not ‘they will like me’, Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.
“Strong women wear their pain like they do stilettos. No matter how much it hurts, all you see is the beauty of it.”
I don’t like making my problems everyone else’s problems. When a guy screws you over, when your boyfriend cheats on you, when things don’t go your way, "you handle it" like Olivia Pope would say. You don’t quit. You don’t ask for pity. You don’t text him a million times asking for attention. Be stronger than that. A strong woman automatically stops when she feels unwanted. She doesn’t beg, she walks away…
“I’d rather you tell me to hit you later
Because you gotta finish a paper.
Then to be in my face asking for a Rose cup.
See these b***hes can’t cut in yo business.
I’m in love with your business
And your productivity is the reason I interest, ambitious girl
See, I like the person that you are
But I’m in love with the person that you have potential to be
And all your dreams sharing with me
And your secrets baring with me
And the flaws, you ain’t even got to mention to me
Ambitious girl, you just wanna win
And you’d rather chase your dreams
Then to try to chase these men
That try to chase these skirts
That try to chase these shots with flavors that ain’t even as sweet as her”
-Ambitious Girl by Wale
“If you want to be successful in this world, you have to follow your passion, not a paycheck.” – Jen Welter (NFL’s First Female Coach)
I believe you can find inspiration in almost any surrounding. I believe you have to pay attention to all the little cues in your life as they are a guide to lead you to where you're suppose to end up. Have more self-awareness by acknowledging the things you enjoy or intrigue you by the beauty. I have several ideas I write down in my notes app on my iPhone. My objective of this is to eventually act on those ideas. It's a more definite way to lock an idea in the back of your head. It's something I can relate back to.